~ DIVA ~
My name is Hope and I am 1/2 of the DIVAProject! I’ve finally reached THE point where I am no longer ashamed or scared to share my identity — YAY! I want to start summarizing/critiquing/sharing different articles that I am currently reading on Domestic Violence and more specifically Intimate Partner Violence. My goal is […]
“Don’t be careful. You could hurt yourself.” – Byron Katie
Challenges, risks, open hearts and fearlessness work in your favor. Don’t shy away from taking a leap of faith, even if it scares you. If you do take the plunge, you will never regret a day in your life.
Here’s to making life count.
~ DIVA ~
I sometimes contemplate the concept of fairness. Is it fair that good people suffer?
In that vein, I occasionally think about my abusive ex-boyfriend with regards to the concept of fairness. After all the put-downs, the aggression and downright disrespect, he continues to go through life as though nothing happened, void of any remorse or a sense of wrong-doing (or so it seems).
It’s not fair; not in the slightest. It’s not right that the rest of his friends and family think he’s an emotionally healthy and good-natured man. He got away with it scot-free. It’s not fair that I have to reconcile with this, knowing that I will NEVER get the apology I seek.
These situations aren’t fair, but that doesn’t make them less purposeful to those that suffer the consequences. What I have gained from this is a level of strength that I wouldn’t have otherwise, had he not treated me the way he did.
Fairness and lack thereof can be a difficult pill to swallow. However, bear in mind that life is doing this FOR you and not TO you. The difficulties you face will only hone your character, strengthening your abilities to deal with life’s greater challenges.
Let them go and live your life. Fairness, much like sadness and happiness, comes in waves and is never constant. You will be fine and those ex-abusers just helped you, in the most unlikely of ways, become a stronger and better you.
~ DIVA ~
Whenever I have those down days, moments, and thoughts I listen to this song and it reminds me of how strong I am. YOU are just as strong. Have Faith in yourself and the rest will follow. ~ DIVA ~ xo Hope ox
…No one can make you feel inferior without your consent – Eleanor Roosevelt
Be brave, think big, love yourself. Have a beautiful week.
~DIVA~ Xo Hope oX
A couple months ago I was honored to have been asked by Kellie Jo Holly to become a mentor for Verbalabusejournals.com. Kellie has a survivor-mentor program in which survivors have an online mentor-mentee relationship with those who are in, or have left, abusive relationships.
I’ve been a mentor now since May 1st and it has been truly rewarding. One of the things I’ve found the most striking is how similar abusive relationships are. The individual who I am mentoring had a completely different relationship and experienced different kinds of abuse than I did. However, there are SEVERAL similarities between the two relationships an the nature of the abuse.
It’s been an amazing experience and has been yet another step in my healing process. If you, or anybody you know, would benefit from having a mentor PLEASE contact myself at email@example.com or contact Kellie Jo Holly at verbalabusejournals.com .
Xo Hope oX
Upon waking up today, I asked myself “Is it Friday yet?”, immediately a sense of guilt washed over me. Why am I wanting time to pass me by? Time is both precious and limited. There are so many blessings in my life, I don’t think I could count them all. Learning to live in the now is one of the fundamental elements of yoga and meditation. Living in the now leads to increased self awareness and appreciation for where YOU are in your life (and at this very moment) now. It leads us to be more thankful of the many blessings that we take for granted daily. Since moving to NYC a little over a month ago I’ve only taken two yoga classes… I think it’s time I reconnect with my mat and practice living in the now.
I recently started taking improvisation comedy classes which might be the gutsiest thing I’ve done in a long time. Challenging yourself by pursuing novel and difficult situations leads to growth and tons of self discovery. The key is to learn how to recognize your own fears and ignore the potential for judgement from others. Once you rid yourself of that, anything can happen!
When I asked a friend for advice on how to deal with the fear of judgement or seeming silly and nervous on stage, he said:
“When you’re on stage, “they” are no longer important. You are. They’re simply watching.”
Use this as a mantra for your life. The opinions of others are as important as you make them. People are simply observers, by default. YOU are the performer and the artist. Don’t fear, be real and be passionate. Follow your heart and perform with everything you’ve got. Trust me, others will applaud you and follow your lead:)
The DIVA Team