Don’t be careful

“Don’t be careful. You could hurt yourself.” – Byron Katie

Challenges, risks, open hearts and fearlessness work in your favor. Don’t shy away from taking a leap of faith, even if it scares you. If you do take the plunge, you will never regret a day in your life.

Here’s to making life count.

~ DIVA ~
Christina xo.

IT’S NOT FAIR!….but it’s ok.

I sometimes contemplate the concept of fairness. Is it fair that good people suffer?

In that vein, I occasionally think about my abusive ex-boyfriend with regards to the concept of fairness. After all the put-downs, the aggression and downright disrespect, he continues to go through life as though nothing happened, void of any remorse or a sense of wrong-doing (or so it seems).

It’s not fair; not in the slightest. It’s not right that the rest of his friends and family think he’s an emotionally healthy and good-natured man. He got away with it scot-free. It’s not fair that I have to reconcile with this, knowing that I will NEVER get the apology I seek.

These situations aren’t fair, but that doesn’t make them less purposeful to those that suffer the consequences. What I have gained from this is a level of strength that I wouldn’t have otherwise, had he not treated me the way he did.

Fairness and lack thereof can be a difficult pill to swallow. However, bear in mind that life is doing this FOR you and not TO you. The difficulties you face will only hone your character, strengthening your abilities to deal with life’s greater challenges.

Let them go and live your life. Fairness, much like sadness and happiness, comes in waves and is never constant. You will be fine and those ex-abusers just helped you, in the most unlikely of ways, become a stronger and better you.

~ DIVA ~
Christina xo.

Don’t Be Afraid!

I recently started taking improvisation comedy classes which might be the gutsiest thing I’ve done in a long time. Challenging yourself by pursuing novel and difficult situations leads to growth and tons of self discovery. The key is to learn how to recognize your own fears and ignore the potential for judgement from others. Once you rid yourself of that, anything can happen!

When I asked a friend for advice on how to deal with the fear of judgement or seeming silly and nervous on stage, he said:

“When you’re on stage, “they” are no longer important. You are. They’re simply watching.”

Use this as a mantra for your life. The opinions of others are as important as you make them. People are simply observers, by default. YOU are the performer and the artist. Don’t fear, be real and be passionate. Follow your heart and perform with everything you’ve got. Trust me, others will applaud you and follow your lead:)

The DIVA Team

Christina xo.

Believe

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Do you believe in yourself? You should. Everything and anything you want lies within you. Believe, seek it and you shall receive it.

~DIVA~

Christina xo

This is your LIFE.

Sometimes, when you leave a bad relationship, you’re left with TONS of existentialist questions to deal with. I, for one, thought that my relationship, as verbally abusive as it was, was the be-all and end-all of my life. I guess that was part of the whole manipulation, right? All that was left for me was marriage, kids and years of resentment. But, I left.

I’m on my own now and my life has taken a course for the “questionable;” not at all in a negative way, but in a very overwhelming, “where will life take me????” kind of way.

I’m sure some of you may be familiar with The Holstee Manifesto. It’s a direct, short and sweet rundown of what matters in life and how to live it well. A message that has been shared over 500,000 times and viewed over 60 million times online.

As a reminder to those that feel lost, downtrodden and discouraged, life has meaning once you start perceiving things differently and doing what you love. I encourage you to follow The Holstee Manifesto and watch your life transform into your own little slice of heaven on earth;)

The Holstee Manifesto
The Holstee Manifesto

Find out more about the inspirational Holstee team via the following link: http://shop.holstee.com/pages/about

P.S. I’ll be hanging up my printed manifesto in my room imminently. It’ll be my little daily “prayer.”

~DIVA~

Christina xo